Finding Joy in Unexpected Places

Not every holiday looks like a Hallmark special. And that’s okay. Joy often arrives quietly, in ways we don’t expect. Try noticing:

· Tiny moments of beauty. How the snow glitters on a branch, the flash of a red cardinal, the comfort of a warm mug in your hands. Small things count — sometimes more than the big ones.

· Small acts of kindness. Hold the door, write a quick thank-you note, check on a neighbor, or volunteer an hour. Generosity doesn’t have to be grand to be meaningful.

· A gratitude jar or journal. Capture tiny wins, moments of comfort, or things you’re thankful for. On the hard days, these notes can feel like little lanterns.

· Simple creativity or play. Bake something, doodle, read a favorite book, put on music and decorate a corner of your home — or go all out and build a snow fort. This is joy for joy’s sake. No perfection required.

· Rest — real rest. Permission granted to slow down. Rest isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity.

Why the Holidays Can Feel Hard

If this time of year feels heavier than joyful, you’re not alone.

· High expectations. Social media and commercials paint unrealistic pictures of perfect gatherings and perfect families — the pressure can feel overwhelming.

· Emotional triggers. Grief, loneliness, or changes in relationships can make the season tender or painful.

· Packed schedules. Shopping, hosting, traveling, wrapping up the year — it’s a lot for anyone.

The good news? With a little intention (and compassion), you can build a holiday experience that feels calmer, kinder, and more you.

Self-Care Strategies to Carry You Through

Here are ways to protect your well-being during the busy season:

· Check in with yourself. Your feelings are valid — even the not-so-festive ones. Journaling or talking to someone you trust can lighten the load.

· Set boundaries that honor your energy. You can say “no.” You can cancel. You can simplify. You’re allowed to choose what feels manageable and meaningful.

· Keep a few basic routines. Prioritize sleep, hydration, nourishing meals, sunlight, and gentle movement when you can. These small habits create stability.

· Use mini resets. Five minutes of quiet breathing, a warm drink, calming music, or a short walk can help regulate stress.

· Stay connected in ways that feel good. A card, a message, or a short call can remind you (and others) that none of us have to do this alone.

· Make new traditions. Big gatherings aren’t the only way to celebrate. Try a cozy movie night, a nature walk, a holiday-lights drive, or a simple ritual that brings comfort.

And if you find that intentionally scheduling activities is a source of motivation – here are few daily acts of self-care you can add to your routine:

Pick one or two each day — tiny steps can make a big difference:

· Take 5 slow, mindful breaths

· Drink a full glass of water

· Eat one nourishing meal

· Step outside or look out a window

· Say no to something overwhelming

· Say yes to something comforting

· Connect with one person

· Do one thing purely for fun

· Write down one thing you’re grateful for

· Take a short break from news or social media

· Move for at least 10 minutes

· Rest without guilt

· Notice one small moment of beauty

Interested in additional information? Check out this resource: Holiday Mental Health Toolkit – The Steve Fund

Wishing you warmth, peace, and sparks of joy (even the unexpected kind!)